A lot of times friends tell me that they could never homeschool as if what I am doing seems utterly impossible to comprehend. In the beginning this would make me feel badly but I have come to appreciate why they may feel this way. Either their kids are happy in school or they can't imagine being with their kids all day. I get it, I used to feel that way too.
What they don't understand is that homeschooling offers the promise of a spacious life. One with freedom and flexibility. One where relationships come first and everyone has a voice. One where kids are happy and at peace. One with what I call flow.
When your kids are in school, especially if you have multiple children, you spend your days in a rush. You start with dragging sleepy bodies out of bed in the morning, quickly gobble some breakfast, deal with your kids whining and fighting and rush out the door to the bus or drop off line. Your days pass quickly whether you work or stay home and before you know it all starts all over again. You may even spend hours in the car at various pick up times.
Once your kids get home there is homework to complete, dinner to make, practices and lessons to attend. If you have intense kids like mine, more than likely your days are stressful and chaotic. Oh my, how people do not know what goes on behind closed doors in a family with gifted and sensitive souls!
One of my kids had stomach aches every morning and would cry that she did not want to go to school. We missed the bus often as I struggled to get her out the door and almost every day I dropped a crying child off at the steps of school.- all the way until 4th grade. Another preschool child would cling to me at drop off begging not to go, for months and months. Another older daughter wouldn't complete her work in school and teachers were constantly telling me that she lacked focus and motivation. Life was not meant to be lived this way.
Somehow inside I knew something needed to change but I was scared. Every day of school - I would pull away feeling wracked with guilt and worry- was I doing the right thing? Were the professionals right that letting her stay home was harmful? If they were right, why did every part of me feel so awful. Why was my mother's intuition screaming for me to listen and bring her home under her mothers wing- if school was just what you did?
Learning to trust my own intuition wasn't easy. I had no guide. No friend to lead the way. I had to give myself the space and freedom to think differently. To understand that inside I truly knew what was best for my kids.
I had to learn that there is no one way to do things that works perfectly for every family and that no professional could possibly know what was best for mine.
By trusting myself, I have learned that life is a grand adventure just waiting to be explored! Our kids are naturally curious and if we honor their needs and listen to their wants, they will reward us with more peace and fulfillment than we could ever have imagined. I have learned there is no need for worry or fear, and by living this way, my kids are growing and developing at their own pace and in their own way.