It’s easy to let fear guide you when you are are starting to homeschool for the first time. We worry if we can do this, if there will be gaps, if we will have time for ourselves. We wonder if they are doing enough, if we are doing them a disservice by giving them space to be themselves, to grow at their own pace.
It’s tempting to look around us and see what everyone else is doing .
Those of us who are suddenly unexpectedly homeschooling didn’t have time to mentally prepare for this. We don’t have a philosophy of education to ground us. More often we are flying by the seat of our pants so many of us make the mistake of doing school at home and as a result miss out on the riches available to us if we would give ourselves time to expand and grow.
My sixteen year old struggles with severe dyslexia and anxiety. Homeschooling saved her. Unschooling gave her back to us. Awakened her. My favorite image of her is our first day of homeschooling lying in the bathtub reading - one arm over the side petting her dog, how beautiful is that?
She’s going into 11th grade next year and I’m pretty sure she’d be way behind if I compared her to her peers, but who cares. This isn’t a race. What matters is she’s sitting there writing an amazing story and she’s at peace. My girl with severe dyslexia and anxiety that was so debilitating that when I pulled her out of school she could barely talk to us let alone learn. At home it was as if a giant weight was lifted off of her and over time she began to unfold. Just like her older sister I know in my soul she’ll get where she’s going in her own time and in her own way. Self directed.
So today I give you permission to trust yourself and your child. You don’t have to do this like anyone else and it’s completely okay- more than okay to allow space for self discovery and growth. Find your homeschool philosophy. Figure out what you stand for and make choices from there.
At times you may doubt yourself. I understand. It takes faith to stand with grace in the unknown.
Mamas, you can’t mess this up. You have time and the rewards are great.
So before you go sign up for all the classes and fill all the space in your days- imagine what your mission is in this journey and go live that.
This my friends is a spacious life.
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